I wouldn’t normally write a post like this yet, a lovely email from someone who likes my blog has recently asked for advice and I couldn’t not. People close to me would know that I came out of a long term relationship around Christmas and although it was a difficult period, I have managed to become stronger and happier as a person. The main reason behind this is focussing on the things that keep me happy, my family and my friends and writing a lot more often. I’ve always wanted to write more yet have never had the confidence to put anything ‘out there’ now that I’ve done so I’m glad I have. It hasn’t only given me purpose in a hobby but also has given me a way to help others. I can also choose what I want to write about and update when I want, meaning I don’t have any restraints.
Anyway, back to the advice, without knowing the situation any advice is hard to hand out, especially when it comes to relationships. If you’re having a really tough time hang on, it does get better. If you’re in a toxic relationship then you were clearly better off without or if you’re just taking a ‘break’ then use that time to focus on you and decide if they are really worth the pain. The only other advice I could give would probably be in the form of a list, so I’ll do one.
- This is not the end of the world. You will move on and you will feel better soon. Yes, that tub of Ben & Jerry’s will make you feel better too- don’t regret that scoop.
- When you get told ‘there’s plenty of fish in the sea’. It may hurt now, but it is the truth. The ‘one’ is somewhere out in the world, you’ve just got to wait.
- It is also equally as important to be happy within yourself, it isn’t the end of the world not having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Do what makes you happy and do it often. If you get upset focus on that, or write it down and try to gather your thoughts.
- Binge eating doesn’t help. I agree with having a few takeaways yet don’t just rely on it. You, being happy and healthy, will make you feel better. Go to the gym, have a walk, or go on a run.
- Listen to yourself. When everyone tries to get involved or asks you what has happened, you don’t have to say anything. If you want to then do! But do what you want to do. Same goes with anything related to the breakup, listen to yourself but always take a step back before doing anything especially when it comes to any form of messaging etc.
If you would like any personal advice please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or if you would like to suggest what blog post I should write next, email!